Lesson 5: Decision Making

Activity 3:

Prudence. Exercising caution and discretion, perhaps by gathering more information before we actually take any action. The decision about what to do will likely involve weighing all these values against each other. You have to weigh the pros and cons, considering the potential outcomes of any actions taken and reflecting on what you believe would be in the best interest of your friend and all other parties involved.

-Phyllis

Comment: Good discussion on the different values in play and to consider weighing the pros and cons. So what's your final decision?

Activity 1: If you were to choose that decision, do you think that is the best choice?

Activity 2: We have sense of morality. This sense helps us know what is right or wrong and what is good or bad. Values helps us make ethical decisions.

Activity 3: I would tell my friend about it. I wouldn’t want her to be with someone who doesn’t respect her. It’s better to tell her now than regret on not telling her anything. The values are honesty and courage.

Comment: Brave and courageous decision made. Values in play are correct. Be mindful of retaining over sensitive information to consider empathy and respect for others as well.

Activity 4:

Siti and Amirah are best friends. Siti noticed that Amirah have been bullying a student. She’s in a dilemma on whether she should tell the teachers about it or not.

I would have ask her if she was in the student situation would she want someone to help her by telling an adult about it? What if that student was her sister? What is the right choice that you must make

Comment: Could adopt the problem-solving process or even help her to evaluate and reflect on her decision.

Norazlina

Activity 3

What I would do?

I would observe and see the situation. I'll ask my friend how is she doing...if she opens up her problem about her spouse then I will share it with her if she doesn't open up i may be quiet as I don't want to create any misunderstanding as I myself am not sure who actually her spouse is with.

Comment: Reasonable decision. What are the values in play? Integrity? Empathy? Respect for others?

Activity 3

Tell my friend in a calm tone what I saw and tell her to think through what actions she should do next.

Values:

-Respect

-Honesty

-Kindness

Yumni

Comment: Sensible decision. Sometimes to leave it to the person to decide on the next step would be a better choice. Empathy & integrity comes into play as well.

Activity 3:

Firstly, I will visit my friend in person to ask my friend if she has noticed her spouse behaving in an unexpected manner these days. Then, I will let my friend know what I had observed between her spouse and another person. I will then show her a video (evidence) that I have taken in secret, to prove that I am not trying to sabotage the relationship. I will also be there to support & lend her a shoulder to cry.

Values in Play :

- Truthfulness

- Loyalty

Comment: The part on video evidence is valid but some considerations to take note of on empathy and respect of others. Perhaps, only show the video when needed as percussion may be great and hurtful for your friend.

Activity 1

What did you learn from the outcome?

Norazlina

Activity 1: Question I will ask will be :

' Are you comfortable sitting alone? Will you want to try sit with a friend so you will have a friend to talk to?

Activity 1

Can you explain why you went with this decision?

-Sylvia

Activity 1:

why do you choose to do that?

-Dianah

Activity 1

What are the good and bad things about choosing this ?

-Sakira

Activity 1: ? - Do you think you could have made a better choice? Nurul Iman

Activity 1: What are some questions you can ask students to help them evaluate and reflect on their decisions and choices?

Please share 1 question each with your name typed on the sticky note.

Activity 3 : What would you do?

You are out for dinner when you saw your friend’s spouse behaving intimately with another person in a restaurant. From the way they are interacting, it is obvious that they are more than just friends.

What would you do? Think about how you came to this decision. What were the values in play? (State your final decision & the value behind.)

SHYAMALA

Activity 1 :

Question : “Why do you think your friend is upset with you?”

Activity 2:

Ethics will guide us to a life of truth and honesty.

Morals help us understand what is right and wrong.

Activity 3:

It is important for us to know where we stand in people’s lives. A marriage is between two people and from what I have seen/heard, it is not easy. Marriage is a commitment and a challenge. Therefore, what I would do is not to interfere but rather let the my friend’s spouse know that I am aware of it and would prefer for him/her to be honest about it.

Comment: What are the values in play if you approach your friend's spouse first?

Activity 4:

A student of mine saw her fellow classmate trying to take something that does not belong to them. My student was in a dilemma as it was her bestfriend that was trying to do the wrong thing. After much consideration, my student actually decided to speak to her friend to explain to her that it was wrong and that it will not be morally right for her to hide it from her teachers as well. How did my student come to this conclusion? I told my students that honesty is the best policy. I told my students to put themselves in a situation like this and imagine how they would feel if someone stole something valuable from them? And nobody is willing to help or speak up? This way, my students were able to come up with a conclusion/solution that is morally right.

Comment: Good strategy. By redefining the values, morals and ethics or even discuss real-life moral and ethical situations with your student is one way to guide them. Other means could be enforcing rules or shared norms to report of students taking others' things or not taking others' stuff.

1 : Did you give your best effort on this most recent assignment? How could you have done better ?

Q2:

Values are principles we follow and belief and we use them in our day to day lives.

Morals are about what is right and wrong

Ethics are based on guide which keeps us to be truthful

Q3:I would inform my friend regarding the situation at a quiet place so that she has privacy and as he did not respect their marriage and was not being loyal to my friend . I would feel bad for not informing her and feel guilty too if there might be other girls in the story without her knowing . Before things goes south I think I should tell my friend before finding out from a 3rd party.

But no matter what decision she takes ill accept since its her life.

Value :Honesty , Integrity , Respect

VENNIA

Comment: Well discussed on the steps you will take in making a responsible decision and values in play are correct. Empathy plays a part as well.

Activity 3

To support a friend, I'll find a suitable time and place to find out about her relationship with her spouse. If she were to open up, I'll speak with empathy, soft tone and listen without judgment. This will help my friend process her emotions and gain clarity. If she doesn't, the next step is to find out if she has noticed any suspicious act going on between her spouse and his peers.

I should remind myself that the goal is not to fix the friend's problems but to support her as she goes through her issues in good times and bad.

Values:

Trustworthiness

Respect

Patience

Compassion

Comment: Well discussed and decision made was well thought. Values in play are correct too. :)

Activity 1: What is your main goal in the first place?

Activity 3: I will not get involve as it is not my place to be the informer. I will only be accused of jeopardizing her marriage. If being asked directly by my friend, I would say that I do suspect something is going on, but couldn't be more sure. As for the husband, I will confront him and tell him that he need to stop the actions immediately and give him a week to tell his wife or I will do it.

Values in play:

Integrity

Loyalty

Compassion

Prudence

Comment: By confronting the husband and setting a timeline may sound intimidating and threatening. Do exercise with caution and perhaps provide him with good advice over moral responsibility and values.

Activity 4: Tom really doesn't want to skip school but being pressured by his friends to skip and join them for a game session. He did as told to fit in because if he doesn't, he will be left out.

I will encourage Tom to learn and say no when pressured to do something he doesn't want to. He have to express himself assertively without being aggressive.

Farzanah

Comment: Encouragement on being positive & assertive is important. Good.

Activity 1

What do you think could have been done better?

Activity 3

I would definitely let my friend know what I saw. It is important for both parties to be honest in a marriage and I would feel bad for my friend as well. It is better to voice it out than ignore it, as we may feel guilty for not bringing it up to our friend.

values:

honesty

compassion

loyalty

-eli

Comment: Honest decision made but do consider to retain sensitive information in the process for empathy to kick in.

Activity 3

I would speak to my friend alone and tell her to find out on her own as well.

I came to this decision because I care about my friend.

The values that play a part are integrity, respect and compassion.

-Sakira

Comment: Reasonable decision made and values in play are correct. Perhaps rather than to find out, advise her to speak to her spouse over the matter.

Activity 3: I will call my friend and ask her about hows her situation with her husband. I will also ask her to calm down before hearing what I've got to say about the scene that i saw.

Values in play:

Loyalty

Compassion

-Diyana

Comment: Good decision made with the correct values in play.

Activity 3

I will not beat about the bush and tell my friend what I had seen. And I’ll let her know that I’m there for her if she needs help.

As the saying goes- treat others as you would like to be treated. I prefer ones to be direct and honest with me.

Values involve: honesty, caring and loyalty

-Sylvia

Comment: Honest decision made. Some consideration for retention of over sensitive information for the empathy and respect for others' part.

Activity 3:

I will ask my friend if something is off between her spouse and herself. Afterwards, i will slow talk with my friend and tell everything that i saw between her spouse and the other party.

Values in play:

Prudence

Loyalty

Integrity

-Dianah

Comment: A very straightforward decision made. :) Could also consider empathy and respect for others and retention of certain sensitive information.

I have to consider that telling my friend would also mean I may lose her friendship. I could be accused of trying to instigate trouble if she chooses not to believe what I saw. I will also have to think about my friend's mental state, whether she is able to handle the news of her husband's infidelity or not. It is better if I have a conversation with her indirectly about how her marriage is faring first, before I decide if it is harmful or helpful to tell her. Should I be feeling brave, I may also approach the husband for a private talk.

Values:- Empathy, Kindness, Care, Respect, Patience

Comment: Well thought on all possible scenarios and projection of your friend's reaction and feelings. Empathy and respect for others play in action.

Activity 1- Do you think it is the right choice and decision for you ?

Activity 2 - To be able to differentiate between good and bad .

Activity 3- Values in play : Forward thinking and patience.I will ensure that decisions made are clear from a friend with a calm mindset before judging them. (Comment: Perhaps more could be elaborated on your final decision made.)

Activity 4-Anna, a high-achieving student, is facing immense pressure to maintain her top grades. She is struggling with the material for an upcoming exam that could significantly impact her final grade. Feeling overwhelmed, she considers cheating during the exam to ensure a good score.

I will encourage Anna to communicate with her teachers about the challenges she's facing. Teachers are often willing to provide support or give additional guidance if students are honest about their difficulties.

                                 -Reena

Comment: Other strategies would include defining values, morals, and ethics, as well as discuss real-life moral and ethical situations with Anna.

Activity 1: Do you think this decision is the right one?

-Diyana

Activity 1:

And how did that make others feel? -Phyllis

Activity 1: What are some questions you can ask students to help them evaluate and reflect on their decisions and choices?

1 question - How could it have ended differently?

Activity 1

What do you think of your choice?

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