1) It’s hard to keep sympatethic at the same time. He put work above her and he put his well being above hers. He relates everything to his job, he says: “he has been given a minor post on the governement” his job has always been present even though his wife coped with grief. He thinks everything is about him, he thinks Sissy has affection for him and that’s just a signal of how big his ego was.
2)On the one hand, she didn’t know him as well, she would’ve lost her comfort and protection. Alternatively, he could’ve gotten violent towards her, but that’s my point of view. On the other hand, she should have confessed, she would be still alive, she would’ve gotten separated from her husband, and could’ve kept on going with her life. She would’ve been happier with the man that belonged to her. Besided, Gilbert’s grief would’ve been smaller, if he found out about the infidelity directly and, without the obvious loss of her wife, the blow would’ve been softer for him.
-Betül Akkaya